What most people would never even guess at is that most cemetery employees, who meet with families who have lost a loved one, are paid primarily by commission. Perhaps that's not the case here but probably it is. A straight commission on $26,000 is substantial vs. the MUCH lower commission on more typical or common headstones that cost roughly $2,000-$5,000. The Walker family bought 6 graves/plots for about $5,000 each. (Yes it's expensive to die.) The commission on the 5 Pre-Need (bought by and for those still living) graves is MUCH higher than the commission on the 1 At-Need (for the deceased) grave. When you enter the cemetery office while grieving you are not thinking clearly. Your cemetery contact is a "salesperson." They are under tremendous pressure from their bosses to sell, sell, sell, and to ask for referrals! Believe it or not! Sad but true.
SpongeBob headstone removed from Iraq war veteran’s grave
By AMANDA LEE MYERS Associated Press October 21, 2013 11:24PM
In this Thursday, Oct. 10, 2013, photo provided by the family of Kimberly Walker, shows Walker's gravestone in the likeness of popular cartoon character SpongeBob SquarePants. Despite getting prior approval for the gravestone from Spring Grove Cemetery in Cincinnati, the cemetery recently removed it, saying it did not fit in with the character of the historic and picturesque cemetery. (AP Photo/Kara Walker)
CINCINNATI — An Iraq war veteran’s towering SpongeBob SquarePants headstone has been removed because officials at the historic Cincinnati cemetery deemed it inappropriate for their traditional grounds.
The headstone of Kimberly Walker, 28, was made in the likeness of her favorite cartoon character and erected at Spring Grove Cemetery on Oct. 10, almost eight months after she was found slain in a Colorado hotel room.
Despite getting the cemetery’s prior approval of the headstone’s design — a smiling SpongeBob in an Army uniform, with Walker’s name and rank — her family said Monday that cemetery staff called them the day after it was installed to say it would have to come down.
The 7-foot headstone, along with a near-exact duplicate erected for Walker’s living twin sister, has been removed and will not be allowed back up, cemetery President Gary Freytag said Monday.
“We’ve decided that they aren’t appropriate for our historic cemetery and they can’t be displayed here,” Freytag said, adding that the employee who approved the headstones made an inexplicable error in judgment, given the cemetery’s traditional, stately appearance.
He acknowledged that the cemetery is at fault and that staff members would meet with Walker’s family on Tuesday to try to find a solution, which could include a more traditional gravestone bearing a small likeness of the character.
Freytag also said Spring Grove is prepared to reimburse the family for each headstone, which cost a combined $26,000, and pay for new ones.
“I feel terrible that it got to this point but I’m hoping we can come out at the other end of the tunnel with a solution,” he said.
Walker was an Army corporal assigned to the 2nd General Support Aviation Battalion and served two yearlong tours Iraq in 2006 and 2010 as a petroleum supply specialist, her family said.
Walker was found dead in a hotel room in Colorado Springs on Valentine’s Day this year, strangled and beaten to death. Her boyfriend, an Army sergeant stationed nearby, was arrested and charged in her killing.
Walker’s twin sister, Kara Walker, said the family is beyond distraught. A lot of thought went into the gravestones, which she said were chosen because her sister loved SpongeBob, even outfitting her entire bedroom with the cartoon character’s decorations.
“It is frustrating that you entrust a cemetery to have your best interest at heart and accommodate you and your family at a hard time . . . and because they don’t like it they’re going to take it down,” said Kara Walker, 29, an information technician for the U.S. Navy stationed in Naples, Italy.
“My sister served our country and most people try to accommodate veterans and try to take care of them,” she said. “For them not to accommodate and respect what my sister sacrificed, not only for my family, but for everyone else in this country, really bothers me.”
She said the only way the cemetery can make it up to the family, which she said paid for six plots for $29,000, is to put the headstones back.
“They already brought enough grief and pain to the family,” she said. “We want what we paid for and what I know my sister would have wanted.”
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