Showing posts with label family lives on. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family lives on. Show all posts

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Kelly Corrigan Transcending, Acceptance, Memoirs, Tell Your Story, Cancer




Philadelphia Inquirer, LOCAL News section, Front Page (Page B1), Tuesday, February 24, 2015:



Kelly Corrigan draws on growing up in Radnor for memoirs

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Author Kelly Corrigan
Author Kelly Corrigan Drew Altizer
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Author Kelly Corrigan GALLERY: Kelly Corrigan draws on growing up in Radnor for memoirs


Kelly Corrigan loves driving down Darby Paoli Road in Villanova.
The author has returned to it many times, both on visits to her parents' house and in her best-selling memoirs about family.
It's the look of the landscape.
The way the hills slope.
The lack of stoplights on the road.
"I just think it's beautiful," said Corrigan, 47.
It also, like many roads in her life seem to, leads to her mother and father.
The Radnor native has built a career writing about her relationships with her parents and daughters.
She started out selling her first memoir, about her and her father's simultaneous battles with cancer, in friends' living rooms in 2008.
It wasn't until a video essay of Corrigan's about female bonds called "Transcending" went viral on YouTube that she herself went from a newcomer to a big name.
"Transcending" has gotten nearly five million hits. All three of her memoirs have reached No. 2 on The New York Times nonfiction bestseller list.
This month, Corrigan is starting the paperback tour for the third book, Glitter and Glue, which was first published in hardcover a year ago.
The book tackles Corrigan's relationship with her mother.
"I didn't leave my childhood thinking my mother was going to be a big part of my life. I didn't think we really had enough in common to hold us together," Corrigan said last week from her home in California.
That changed, first during Corrigan's postcollege job as a nanny to children whose own mother had just died, and later after Corrigan's breast cancer diagnosis at age 36.
The book weaves those stories together with the ability to relate that has drawn Corrigan thousands of fans.
"The nicest thing people ever say, that makes me so happy, is, they say, 'Exactly. This is exactly how I felt,' or, 'This is exactly what I've wanted to say,' " Corrigan said.
She aims to put words to elements of life that can be hard to express but are worth thinking about, she said. Her next book will be about acceptance - the things that are "blocking us from being able to let go."
In conversation, Corrigan is as engaging and funny as she is on the page. Fast-paced and thoughtful, she weaves back and forth between jokes and wisdom. Her mother's voice frequently works its way in, via Corrigan's croaky, Philadelphia-Baltimore-accented imitation of her.
Corrigan's parents still live in the house in which she and her two brothers grew up. Both she and her father finished cancer treatment in 2006.
Corrigan, who now lives in Oakland with her husband and two daughters, 11 and 13, remembers her childhood fondly. She gives great credit to Radnor High School, from which she graduated in 1985.
Corrigan received her master's degree in literature from San Francisco State University and worked for the United Way before her writing career. She was featured in The Inquirer in 1998 for Shakespeare-teaching software she developed as a graduate student and demonstrated at Radnor.
"I am incredibly proud of her," said Mary Anne Caporaletti, who taught Corrigan's senior-year Advanced Placement literature class at Radnor. Corrigan was a brave student, she said.
Since the release of Glitter and Glue, Corrigan has taken her comedic yet poignant style to a new endeavor: a talk show for Medium.com called "Foreword," which launched on YouTube last month.
So far, she's interviewed the author Margaret Atwood and the actor Jason Segel, among others, about "big ideas."
"We're really going for . . . something more satisfying, that you will refer to in your mind over time, that will change the way you think about something in a lasting way," Corrigan said.
She is also hoping to create change on her book tour by donating all its proceeds to charity. Her reading on Monday, scheduled for Montgomery School in Chester Springs at 7 p.m., will benefit the Exton-based nonprofit Family Lives On, an organization that helps bereaved children carry on traditions they had with their deceased parents.
The family-oriented organization is a perfect match for Glitter and Glue, Corrigan said.
Her childhood house on Wooded Lane has changed little. Corrigan sleeps in her old bedroom when she visits. It's almost like a museum, she said, and one she has mined well in her writing.
Glitter and Glue was the first book Corrigan attempted. After six months, she decided it was a ludicrous aspiration, akin to wanting to win an Oscar, she said. But 20 years later, the book is on Oprah Winfrey's list of favorites. Corrigan's mother thinks it's the best one yet. And Corrigan said she has learned one important lesson:
"You're allowed to tell your story."


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Tuesday, January 27, 2015

"Helping the Young Grieve" / Helping Children Grieve







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Andrew McIntyre and his wife, Blaire Evelan,  and two daughters, Isla 4 and  Ainslee, 2. He is wearing his cycling jersey, which bears his father´s name, the name of the nonprofit foundation McIntyre started. (  STEVEN M. FALK / Staff Photographer )
Andrew McIntyre and his wife, Blaire Evelan, and two daughters, Isla 4 and Ainslee, 2. He is wearing his cycling jersey, which bears his father's name, the name of the nonprofit foundation McIntyre started. ( STEVEN M. FALK / Staff Photographer )

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Philadelphia Inquirer, Tuesday, January 27, 2015, LOCAL NEWS section, Front Page, Page B1:


Helping the young grieve

There is increasing recognition that loss must be addressed.

By Justine McDaniel INQUIRER STAFF WRITER
   It was March 25, 2010, and Andrew McIntyre had just become a father.
   His mind was on his newborn girl, but he was also thinking about his own dad, who died of complications from emphysema when McIntyre was 4.
   “It brought my father back to me in a way I had not anticipated,” McIntyre said. “I wanted him in the waiting room, more so than when I got married or graduated.” Having his own child inspired McIntyre, a West Chester native, to help bereaved children in the area.
   Last fall, he launched the W.H. McIntyre Foundation. Named for his father, the organization hopes to provide money for sports, arts, or other children’s activities that may fall by the wayside after a parent dies, making a child feel even more alone.
   “That’s what we hope to really combat — that feeling of isolation that comes with bereavement,” said Shannon McDonald, the group’s board president. 
   About 6 percent of children under 18 will experience the death of a parent, according to a commonly cited 1988 study. By that rate, an estimated 60,000 children across Philadelphia, Chester, Bucks, Delaware and Montgomery Counties have lost a parent.
   Society is increasingly open to addressing grief, but many children still do not get the help they need, experts say. One reason is that adults mistakenly think children don’t grieve. And kids don’t always know how to express feelings.
   “Their experience can get kind of buried. … It’s easy for them to fall through the cracks,” said Carrie Miluski, executive director of Peter’s Place, a center in Radnor that offers peer support groups for bereaved families.
   David Schonfeld, who directs the National Center for School Crisis and Bereavement in Philadelphia, said there was little demand for his type of services years ago.
   Not anymore.
   On Jan. 13, he helped launch the Coalition to Support Grieving Students 
, a national group created with top education associations to provide online materials, videos and modules to train school faculty about grief.
   “We just can’t wait for some horrific event,” said Schonfeld, who works with schools in the United States and abroad, and has given more than 800 lectures on child grief. “It’s kind of like saying, ‘I’m not going to teach physicians anything about infectious diseases, we’ll wait for a plague.’ ”
   National and local groups use varied techniques to work with children and family members.
   Family Lives On, a national group based in Exton, helps children carry on a family tradition after a parent has died, providing supplies and means for it every year until the child turns 18.
   “We’re just trying to normalize that we continue to talk about the fact that Mom has died and you’re continuing to adjust to it,” said Chris Cavalieri, the organization’s executive director.
   After Fran Shoup’s 18-year-old daughter died of a chronic illness in 2009, he took his three sons to Peter’s Place, the Radnor center.
   There, children, teens, and caregivers can attend groups that aim to 
offer companionship and community. The staff also meets with children in schools in Philadelphia and Delaware and Chester Counties.
   “Society, up to this point, really hasn’t covered the needs of people who are grieving. So for me, it was a godsend,” said Shoup, of West Chester.
   McIntyre said the idea for his nonprofit came from his childhood, when “the only thing that anchored him” was the community he found through football, wrestling, basketball and swimming.
   By covering sports fees, class tuition or equipment costs, W.H. McIntyre hopes to give children stability and an outlet.
   “This will be a resource that we haven’t really been able to provide,” said Tricia Alston, a social worker for the West Chester Area School District.
   For McIntyre, 41, the mission is personal. He seeks not only to provide unique aid to kids, but also to create some meaning out of his own story.
   “The goal is really celebrating life,” McIntyre said. “We want people to just take joy in whatever it is that they do.”jmcdaniel@philly.com 
   610-313-8205 @McDanielJustine
Andrew McIntyre with wife Blaire Eveland and daughters Isla, 4, and Ainslee, 2. His cycling jersey bears his father’s name, used in that of the foundation he started. He lost his own father when he was 4, and missed him when he became a parent. STEVEN M.
   FALK / Staff Photographer